Friday, May 29, 2009

Building Self Confidence

Very often, before other people will start to have faith in you, you have to have confidence in your own abilities. Self-confidence is a very powerful state of mind that other people quickly notice and easily respect. So how can you develop a high-level of self-confidence?

Consider these steps:

First, choose to concentrate on your strengths rather than on your weaknesses. Confidence comes from within. You have to concentrate on the positive things about yourself. Remember the past is over; you can only change the future. If you have trouble doing this, write down ten positive things about yourself. People often find it very helpful to actually see the words.

Concentrate on your potentials. These are the reasons why you should love yourself and believe in yourself. Give yourself credit for every successful or good thing that you do. Next, remind yourself of past successes. Confidence builds on past success. The more you do this, the more convinced you'll be that it's possible to succeed again. Most people unfortunately can't help focusing on what they did wrong in the past. This failure to forget and let go damages their self-confidence.

Also, learn to take risks. Risk is a crucial part of life; it is necessary before any great success can be achieved. If you spend your life avoiding risk, you'll never experience all that life has to offer.

Cultivate an enthusiasm for trying out new things. Once you get past that initial barrier, you'll find that it's very empowering. Yes, you will fail sometimes but the lessons and experiences are invaluable. As you do and try more, your confidence level increases because you realise that you become more and more knowledgeable. Approach new experiences as opportunities to learn instead of occasions to win or lose.

Next, use self-talk as an opportunity to contradict destructive beliefs. For example, if you catch yourself expecting perfection, tell yourself that you can't do everything perfectly; that it's only possible to do your best.

And visualize your future success. Our minds cannot distinguish the difference between something real and something vividly imagined. What will your future look like, smell like, taste like, and feel like? Who will be with you, and where will you be? How will you be feeling? Placing this much vivid detail into your mind increases the likelihood of success, and supports greater confidence!


Its a learning process to keep the devil from stealing your joy, b/c he constantly tempts you in new ways to lose your peace.

If satan gets your peace, then he will get your joy. Be strong & resist his temptation 2 make you worry.

Nobody gets to take your joy from you 2day or any other day. You have been such a blessing 2 others & I pray u stay blessed in everything u do.

STOP RT Blogging ME!

FIRST let me just say, Im not trippin and PLEASE dont reply to me "Dont let people get 2 yuo, dont humor them.. etc" Im just answering some wuestions that were DIRECTLY asked to me by some one my Twitterans! Thats what teeting & Blogging is about right?

SO OH here we go again! LMAO! PLEASE stop telling me what MTO wrote about me, I DONT CARE! I honestly dont! I am at a gret place in my life and working on My christian Walk so Im trying hard not to let these things even bother me and it would help if ou guys stop reporting things back to me!

Everyone has their opinions & they are entitled 2 it! For the record, I am 5'5" & weigh 118lbs. Those pics are HIGH FASHION Editorial esque so 4 those who said its 2 dark & I was posing funny! LMAO! The pics were lit that way purposely by the amazing photographer KATE Szatmari and it being a high fashion esque shoot, BLack Men & King Magazine crotch & back shot poses werent really appropriate! LMAO! Think outside of the box people! Its ok to do so every now and then!

4 the people asking if im anorexic & if I lost my lil booty, LMAO! NO IM NOT anorexic at all, i actually eat and snack all day and DO NOT throw any of it up! Im no thick as hell anymore but Im fine with that! Im a tiny person by nature and actually a healthy average weight for someone my height! Yes I still got my lil booty, the jeans were a lil baggy & my pose kinda made me suck it in a lil and I think the pic came out pretty nice!

So with that said, YEAH again! Check 4 new photos & article on me & my sense of style & thanks in advance 4 reading!

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